Are you spending too much of your precious energy on the “M” word?
Let me explain.
We make big decisions in life.
Where to live. Who to marry. Whether to get married at all. What career path to follow – or business to start. Whether to have kids – and if so, how many. Which friendships to nurture.
We can question our decisions over and over or – we can say to ourselves…
You know, I’m pretty happy with my choices. I think I’ll make the best of it all and spend my precious energy dealing with the real problems.
Our minds love to look for problems to solve. That’s its job. Notice the danger. Large hungry animal ahead – RUN!
But in a world where hungry lions aren’t trying to eat us, the mind has to find a new game. And questioning the big stuff is one of its all time favorites.
I call this Shiny Syndrome.
- Maybe a new career would make me happy?
- Maybe I made a mistake moving across the country?
- Maybe I married the wrong person?
- Maybe I need new friends?
- Maybe my house is too big – or too small?
The “M” word is maybe.
Don’t get me wrong, if you’re in an abusive relationship or your job is crushing your soul – by all means, make a change.
That said, so many of us spend a significant amount of time questioning our big decisions. We live our lives wondering if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.
The problem with the constant questioning is that perpetual Shiny Syndrome leads to an unfulfilling life.
If we’re thinking we might be happier if we owned a coffee shop or married that guy we dated for two months in college or sold it all and moved into a tiny house in the woods then…
We’re never able to fully appreciate the present moment.
We’re never 100% all in when it comes our work or relationships or friendships.
Shiny Syndrome shows up when it comes to weight loss as well.
Maybe I should try that new diet – this one doesn’t seem to be working.
To that I always say – have you gone all in? Did you give it 100%?
And the answer is usually no.
I tried Weight Watchers and it didn’t work.
I tried Paleo and it didn’t work.
I hired a personal trainer and it didn’t work.
The hard truth is you didn’t go all in.
There are many paths to success and fulfillment. But we won’t get very far if we’re questioning + wondering + looking + maybe-ing all day long.
Take a look around at your life and consider what might happen if you decided to say yes to it all.
What would happen if you went all in?
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XO
~Robyn
Robyn Spurr is a Once Obese Chick, Eating Disorder Survivor, Certified Weight Loss Coach, Personal Trainer and founder of Chickadee Weight Loss. She helps women learn to manage their emotions without food and reach their healthy, natural weight without all the diet craziness.