Change is hard. We all know it. Whether it’s starting a new fitness routine, revamping your diet, or finally decluttering the “everything” drawer, the journey can feel daunting before you even begin. That’s why before diving headfirst into any transformation, it’s crucial to pause and dig into your deeper motivations.
This isn’t about checking off a to-do list; it’s about understanding why this change matters to you on a personal level. Trust me, knowing your why can be the difference between giving up after two weeks and pushing through even when Netflix and the couch are calling your name.
Ask Yourself These Game-Changing Questions:
- What about this change is important to me?
This is where you zoom out and look at the big picture. Is it about living longer, feeling more confident, or setting an example for your kids? - How serious or pressing is this for me?
Get real with yourself. Is this something you want to tackle eventually, or is it a “right now” situation? - Why not keep doing what I’m already doing?
This one stings a little, but it’s worth asking. If the status quo is fine, maybe change isn’t actually needed. But if you feel the pang of discomfort here, pay attention—it’s a clue that change is worth it.
The 5 Whys: Motivation Mining 101
One of my favorite tools for getting to the heart of the matter is an exercise called The 5 Whys. It’s simple but powerful:
- Start with a goal or problem, and ask yourself “Why?”
- Once you’ve answered, ask “Why?” again.
- Repeat five times.
By the fifth “why,” you’ll likely uncover the deeper emotional or practical reason driving your desire to change. It’s like peeling back layers of an onion—but without the tears.
For example:
- Goal: I want to lose weight.
- Why? Because I want to feel better.
- Why? Because I’m tired of feeling sluggish.
- Why? Because it’s making it harder to play with my kids.
- Why? Because I want to be a present and active parent.
- Why? Because family means everything to me.
See how much richer and more motivating that final answer feels?
The Bottom Line
When you know why you’re doing something—and what’s at stake if you don’t—you’ll find that inner spark that keeps you moving forward, even on the hardest days. This isn’t just about crossing a finish line; it’s about building a life that feels aligned with your values and dreams.
So, grab a journal or sit down with your favorite cup of tea, and start digging. You might just surprise yourself with what you uncover.
What’s YOUR why?
💙 Robyn
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