No one likes a bully. Nevertheless, almost every woman has one thing in common. They are a bully to themselves. Most of us aren’t even aware of our behavior. The cruel thoughts just stream through our minds... You’re disgusting.No one would ever find your body attractive.You’d look better wearing a garbage bag.Don’t even think about trying those on. I recently stumbled upon this video. Two best friends wrote down the things they dislike about their own bodies – then proceeded to say these comments out loud, directed at one another. Why do we say things to ourselves that we wouldn't ever say to (or think about) our best friends or children or sisters? When I work with my clients, we focus on one habit for two weeks. I … [Read more...] about Disrupt Your Inner Critic
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The Truth About Willpower + Weight Loss
There is this belief that willpower is a finite resource. Research done in the 90’s + early 2000’s hinted at the idea that if you use a bunch of willpower early in the day, it will become depleted. Then later in the day, you’ll make all these decisions you might not have otherwise made if your willpower tank was full. This hasn’t exactly been debunked, but what’s true (based on what we know today) is that willpower is a finite resource or something that strengthens with practice depending on WHAT YOU BELIEVE. Say what? If you believe willpower is a finite resource, then it will be for you. But if you believe willpower is muscle that strengthens, not weakens with use – then you will actually have MORE willpower after … [Read more...] about The Truth About Willpower + Weight Loss
Give In Or Discipline?
We all feel like giving up sometimes. What a relief it would be to not do the thing we're supposed to do. To skip the workout. Call in sick. Eat all the things. Say, "eff it," or, "it doesn't really matter." Just for today. And maybe tomorrow. It's not just me, right? Despite our immediate desire to resist or avoid the task at hand, we all know that doing (insert task you don’t want to do) will leave us feeling better. Even if our heart isn’t in it. Even if it’s C+ work. The simple act of showing up is a victory worth celebrating. The reason most people don't change is because we don't want to experience discomfort. What's the point of being uncomfortable when you can just stay the same? I love what behavior change expert … [Read more...] about Give In Or Discipline?
How to Ask Family + Friends for Support (Scripts Included)
Several years ago, I decided to rearrange the furniture in my living room. We’re talking two big sofas, a coffee table and one HEAVY! + unwieldy area rug. There was sweat and swearing - but I did it! Yay me. Right? Not really. I had to take Aleve + wear my ice belt of shame for a few days because my back was so jacked up. So why did I move it all by myself – when I have a capable + strong + willing husband living with me? Because I hated asking for help. When given the chance, I would much rather move sofas + do pretty much anything on my own, thank-you-very-much. “I’ve got this.” “I can handle it.” But doing it all yourself isn’t some great act of strength and independence. I know that now. Asking for help is the true act of … [Read more...] about How to Ask Family + Friends for Support (Scripts Included)