No one likes a bully. Nevertheless, almost every woman has one thing in common. They are a bully to themselves. Most of us aren’t even aware of our behavior. The cruel thoughts just stream through our minds... You’re disgusting.No one would ever find your body attractive.You’d look better wearing a garbage bag.Don’t even think about trying those on. I recently stumbled upon this video. Two best friends wrote down the things they dislike about their own bodies – then proceeded to say these comments out loud, directed at one another. Why do we say things to ourselves that we wouldn't ever say to (or think about) our best friends or children or sisters? When I work with my clients, we focus on one habit for two weeks. I … [Read more...] about Disrupt Your Inner Critic
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Eating Healthy Doesn’t Have to Be So Damn Complicated
The allure of a new diet is tempting. Starting over. Renewed hope. Maybe this one will work. This time I’ll stick with it. 20 pounds in 30 days! But as the days and weeks pass, the new diet becomes overwhelming. The strict rules are frustrating. If you eat something you’re supposed to avoid, you feel guilty. If you’re at a social event flush with foods not allowed on your diet, you feel miserable and alienated. There’s another way. It’s not a fad. It’s not sexy. It won’t promise you rapid results. There are no foods or food groups to avoid (yay carbs!). No restrictive guidelines. It can be adapted to every social situation. And you can indulge in your favorite treats without feeling guilty on occasion. It’s what I call … [Read more...] about Eating Healthy Doesn’t Have to Be So Damn Complicated
The Truth About Willpower + Weight Loss
There is this belief that willpower is a finite resource. Research done in the 90’s + early 2000’s hinted at the idea that if you use a bunch of willpower early in the day, it will become depleted. Then later in the day, you’ll make all these decisions you might not have otherwise made if your willpower tank was full. This hasn’t exactly been debunked, but what’s true (based on what we know today) is that willpower is a finite resource or something that strengthens with practice depending on WHAT YOU BELIEVE. Say what? If you believe willpower is a finite resource, then it will be for you. But if you believe willpower is muscle that strengthens, not weakens with use – then you will actually have MORE willpower after … [Read more...] about The Truth About Willpower + Weight Loss
Give In Or Discipline?
We all feel like giving up sometimes. What a relief it would be to not do the thing we're supposed to do. To skip the workout. Call in sick. Eat all the things. Say, "eff it," or, "it doesn't really matter." Just for today. And maybe tomorrow. It's not just me, right? Despite our immediate desire to resist or avoid the task at hand, we all know that doing (insert task you don’t want to do) will leave us feeling better. Even if our heart isn’t in it. Even if it’s C+ work. The simple act of showing up is a victory worth celebrating. The reason most people don't change is because we don't want to experience discomfort. What's the point of being uncomfortable when you can just stay the same? I love what behavior change expert … [Read more...] about Give In Or Discipline?