“Lack of forgiveness causes almost all of our self-sabotaging behavior.” ~Mark Victor Hansen Everyone struggles with self-criticism. EVERYONE. Isn’t that a relief? I’m a failure. I’m a bad person. I’m so messed up. I’m a bitch. I can’t get it together. I’m too sensitive. I screwed up - BIG time. Something is wrong with me. The human experience is difficult for everyone. Life isn't meant to be goldendoodle puppies and fairy dust 100% of the time. But when things go wrong in our own lives, we tend to slip into isolation. We tend to falsely believe we're alone in our suffering. Self-criticism feels crappy - but there is nothing more painful than feeling cut off and isolated. Everyone else is living a normal happy life. Everyone … [Read more...] about Practicing Self-Compassion
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Are You Treating the Symptoms?
The discomfort of being stuck on the diet - gain it back - diet - gain it back roller coaster is often easier to deal with than the reasons behind our overeating. Our inability to say no. The secret we’re hiding. The job we hate. The fear of getting to know ourselves. The unresolved anger and resentment. The only way to solve our weight problem for good is to address the reasons we're turning to food. There is no other way. Your weight is a symptom of a deeper issue. Counting calories is symptom work. It's a distraction - and quite frankly, a waste of time. Weight coaching is about problem solving. Is it easy – no. Is it the most amazing work you will ever do - absofreakinglutely! If you’re serious about losing weight and keeping … [Read more...] about Are You Treating the Symptoms?
Showing Up for Yourself
You were given this life because you're strong enough to live it. The only thing keeping you from living the life you desire is self-doubt. Self-doubt is a dream killer. The way you talk to yourself is everything. Your brain is like a big muscle. The more time you spend training it, the stronger it gets. Tell it what you want it to think. Notice the self talk that isn't serving you and replace it with thoughts you like. Practice the new thoughts - over and over and over. Until they crowd out the hate and the doubt. You always have a choice. Why not choose love and acceptance and kindness? You can start today. But first - ask yourself if you want to change - for you. You have to want health and happiness so much, that you’re willing to … [Read more...] about Showing Up for Yourself
The Sensible “Diet”
Today I'm going to ask you to consider saying NO to restrictive diets and cleanses and detoxes and all other lose it fast schemes - forever. There is this new and some might say radical approach to weight loss. Let’s call it the Sensible Diet. sen·si·ble adjective (of a statement or course of action) chosen in accordance with wisdom or prudence; likely to be of benefit. I hear you. But that sounds SO boring Robyn! It will take forever to lose weight being sensible. So and so expert says if I want to lose weight, I can’t eat sugar – ever again. And I have to count every calorie. And limit them to 1200. And there’s this new diet - where I can lose 20 pounds in 10 days. And I should avoid all “bad” foods – so I can have a flat stomach and … [Read more...] about The Sensible “Diet”