I've been counseling women on weight loss for a number of years now. Those who succeed have one thing in common. They are whole-heartedly committed to becoming a person who lives a healthy lifestyle. They are committed to transforming their identity - not just their dress size. If you want to lose a significant amount of weight (for good), you must become a healthier person. You must fundamentally change the way you think about yourself. And changing the way you think about yourself will drive actions that support your new identity. Permanent change happens when we go all in - when we want to become a person who has lost the weight for good more than anything. Ask yourself, am I embracing my weight loss journey or cursing it? In other … [Read more...] about Who Succeeds at Losing Weight (for GOOD)
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How to Process Negative Emotion (without food)
I think there's a misconception out there that we're supposed to feel happy all the time. Think happy thoughts. Stay positive. Turn that frown upside down. There is room in this life for every emotion. It's healthy and normal to experience negative feelings. Nevertheless, many of us go to great lengths in order to avoid anything that feels uncomfortable. We choose distraction via food over feeling - time and time again. We think feeling our negative emotions will be so unbearable that we're willing to risk our health. Push it down. Cover it up. Resist. Distract. Pretend. Binge. Pass the wine. If you do nothing else but make the decision that you will be willing to feel your feelings instead of eat, you will lose weight. Let that really … [Read more...] about How to Process Negative Emotion (without food)
Why Fat Happiness is the Key to Losing Weight
There’s a tagline after my signature on every email I send. It says… You can’t hate yourself healthy. Healthy is a place you get to with love. So many of us want to lose the weight so we can escape the pain of being in an overweight body. But here’s the truth – it’s what I had to really “get” before I was able to lose the weight for good. Ready? You won’t accept your body – no matter how much weight you lose, until you learn how to accept your body right now. Did that kind of blow your mind? Yeah, me too. Let me explain. When we think we’ll be happier when we’re thinner, we block ourselves from enjoying life fully right now. We lock ourselves in a prison and the only way out is to become physically smaller. Can you see how painful … [Read more...] about Why Fat Happiness is the Key to Losing Weight
Doubt and the Art of Getting Unstuck
Heck, even a "life" coach can get a little lost at times. A few months back, I found myself wondering… Am I on the right path? Questioning our path isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It can lead to validation, inspiration or a new, more appropriate path. On the flip side, questioning our path can also lead to a state of debilitating doubt. And I was stuck – unequivocally stuck – until I remembered the wise words of one of my mentors. Our circumstances don’t cause suffering. WE create suffering with our thinking. It was time to get to the bottom of my doubt. When we feel a little lost, our first inclination is usually to blame the path we’re on. Maybe I need to move to Argentina. Or become a chef. Or sell it all and travel the country … [Read more...] about Doubt and the Art of Getting Unstuck