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November 12, 2018 By Robyn

The REAL Reason Healthy Eating is Hard (and how to do it anyway)

The benefits of good nutrition and maintaining a healthy weight are clear. There’s no need to provide yet another list.

With so many compelling reasons to eat a healthy diet, why is it so difficult to actually do?

Hint: the answer is not more willpower or greater motivation.

One of the MAIN reasons eating a healthy diet is difficult is because JUNK FOOD IS DELICIOUS (+ widely available + inexpensive).

Steven Witherly is a food scientist who has spent the last 20 years studying what makes certain foods more addictive (and tasty) than others. Much of the science that follows is from his brilliant report, Why Humans Like Junk Food. According to Witherly, when you eat tasty food, there are two factors that make the experience pleasurable.

First, there is the sensation of eating the food. This includes what it tastes like (salty, sweet, umami, etc.), what it smells like, and how it feels in your mouth.

Food companies will spend millions of dollars to discover the most satisfying level of crunch in a potato chip. Their scientists will test for the perfect amount of fizzle in a soda. These factors all combine to create the sensation that your brain associates with a particular food or drink.

The second factor is the actual macronutrient makeup of the food—the blend of proteins, fats, and carbohydrates that it contains. In the case of junk food, food manufacturers are looking for a perfect combination of salt, sugar, and fat that excites your brain and gets you coming back for more.

The more junk food you eat, you more you crave it.

So how do you build the habit of eating less junk? How do you become a healthy eater?

Here are two simple strategies.

#1. Reduce exposure. Remove the cues.

The easiest way to become a healthy eater is to avoid buying processed and packaged foods altogether.

If you don’t own it, you can’t eat it.

The number one driver of behavior change is your environment.

Your environment has an incredible ability to shape your behavior. Nowhere is this more true than with food. What we eat on a daily basis is often a result of what we are presented with.

You can also reduce your exposure (or the triggers that often lead to a craving) by managing what you see on social media.

If your Instagram feed is bursting with cupcakes, you WILL crave cupcakes each time you see one.

The average person spends over two hours a day on social media. That’s a lot of cupcakes.

Full disclosure: I recently unfollowed a local French macaron shop because MACARONS!!!

I do not have superhuman willpower – or endless stores of motivation. What I do have is an environment designed to set myself up for success.

The best way to unwind an unwanted (“bad”) habit is to make it invisible and/or difficult.

Reduce exposure. Remove the cues. Increase the number of steps between you and the “bad” habit. Limit choices.

  • Don’t put the ice cream in your shopping cart. Don’t even go down the ice cream aisle.
  • Put half your restaurant meal in a to-go box immediately and close it up.
  • Get the decadent French macarons off your Instagram feed.
  • Stash the snacks in the back of a shelf that requires a chair to get to.
  • Wrap unhealthy foods in aluminum foil and healthy foods in plastic wrap.
  • Put fruit (and other healthy snacks) on display.
  • Repackage unhealthy snacks into smaller Ziploc bags or containers.
  • Use a small plate so getting seconds means having to get up.

#2 Never eat two unhealthy meals in a row.

A flexible healthy diet means making allowances for unhealthy food from time to time. I’m a Jersey girl. I love pizza and bagels and a good eggplant parmesan on occasion.

I am not a perfect eater. I don’t want to be a perfect eater. Delicious food brings me joy when eaten in moderation.

I have a simple rule that I try to follow: whenever I eat an unhealthy meal, I follow it with a healthy one.

The “never miss twice” rule helps to guide me back toward a healthy diet as quickly as possible.

Fall down. Get up.

You can take this same approach to almost anything in life. If you want to make a unwanted behavior more difficult, then increase the number of steps between you and the behavior.

Meanwhile, if you want to make a good behavior easier, reduce the number of steps between you and the behavior. For example, if you want to make it easier to go for a walk then lay out your shoes and walking gear the night before. One less step between you and your workout.

People who are experts at what you want to do/be/achieve are not willpower and motivation unicorns.

They’ve simply designed their environment in a way that aligns with their goals and developed habits that get them the results they want.

If five flavors of potato chips lived in my pantry, I would eat ALL THE CHIPS.

I do not have junk food resisting superpowers. 

I have less cravings because I rarely eat junk food.

I’ve build up healthy habits over the years that run on autopilot.

My environment supports my goals.

I use apps and tools and services that make healthy living easier.

If my husband buys cookies, they go in the basement – or in his office.

You can do it too. Superpowers not necessary.

XO ~Robyn

Interested in a one-on-one coaching relationship with me? It would be an honor to work with you if and when the time feels right.

To learn more about Personal Health Coaching click HERE. 

To schedule a Discovery Session click HERE.

Filed Under: Coaching Tools, Favorite Posts, Habits, Weight Loss Coaching

October 23, 2018 By Robyn

Beauty Sick Book Review

I sometimes struggle with reconciling my advocacy of body acceptance with the fact that I help women lose weight.

Can you respect your body and want to change it?

My answer is a resounding yes. More than ever.

If I didn’t believe this to be true, there is no way I could do this work with integrity.

Unwinding beauty sickness and appreciating what our bodies do FOR us is an essential component of well-being.

In her book, Beauty Sickness, Renee Englen, a professor at Northwestern University and head of the Body and Media Lab, very clearly and in a very compelling manner exposes the cultural epidemic of beauty sickness, the obsession with appearance, and how it affects or has affected most women in America.

Using scientific studies and interviews with women, young and old and from all different walks of life, she shows the disturbing scope of this problem. The stories of these women are heartbreaking and oh-so-familiar and I could see myself (particularly my younger self) in so many of them.

But Renee doesn’t just leave you with the realization of all the damage beauty sickness has wrought, she very gracefully lays out some extremely helpful and practical solutions to the problem.

1. Function over form. When we really stop to analyze how much we focus on appearance, it’s pretty astounding. Instead of focusing on what we (or others) look like, zero in on what our amazing bodies CAN DO (e.g. hug our loved ones, see a beautiful vista, sing a song, hike a trail, smell lilacs).

The way to take better care of your body is not by shaming it, it’s by being kind and practicing gratitude for all the things it does for you.

2. Love not hate. Please don’t listen to those who claim you have to hate how your body looks in order to motivate healthy behaviors. These claims ARE NOT supported by any type of scientific data.

3. Ask different questions. How do you want the world to be different when you leave it? What kind of person do you want to be? What do you want to be remembered for? Probably not great abs. Let the answers to these questions have a greater influence on how you spend your time + money + energy.

4. Media. Don’t consume media messages about the ideal body. Whether its TV shows, your Instagram feed, magazine covers, books – if it pushes the unobtainable, photoshopped ideal, don’t look at it and don’t think about it.

I recently revamped my Instagram feed to include ONLY people + businesses that promote acceptance and inclusivity. Posts that lift me up and inspire. Life changing.

Instead of fighting the poison after it’s already entered your system, change what you’re consuming.

5. Body Talk. Try not to talk negatively about your body, especially in front of children. Whenever we complain about our body we’re encouraging those around us to do the same.

“When we degrade our own bodies, we send the message to others that it’s acceptable for them to do so as well.”

6. Praise Character. When praising others, try not to focus on appearance.

This one is HARD.

We’re conditioned to praise appearance. What’s FASCINATING is the research shows that even a “positive” comment makes the recipient become more body conscious.

“That shirt looks so good on you,” reminds the wearer that her appearance is being critiqued.

Instead of praising appearance, praise character, what they’ve accomplished, who they are at the heart.

“Anything that draws a woman’s attention to the appearance of her own body or makes her feel as though her body is being evaluated can result in body shame.”

I will say, I found this book difficult to read on occasion. It challenges. It triggers. It asks you to reexamine deep-rooted beliefs and behaviors.

But – if you’re ready, it can also be a powerful catalyst for healing.

XO ~Robyn

Interested in a one-on-one coaching relationship with me? It would be an honor to work with you if and when the time feels right.

To learn more about Personal Health Coaching click HERE. 

To schedule a Discovery Session click HERE.

Filed Under: Awareness, Books, Coaching Tools, Favorite Posts, Self Acceptance, Self Care, Weight Loss Coaching

October 12, 2018 By Robyn

5 Steps for Unwinding Body Shame

It’s entirely NORMAL to experience negative body image days. It’s NORMAL to not love what you see in the mirror or in a photo sometimes.

Welcome to the club my friend.

But you don’t have to stay stuck in that place. You don’t have to layer feelings of guilt and shame about feeling bad on top of ALREADY feeling crummy.

Today I’m sharing a process to help you unwind a negative body image spiral – so you can get on with living your amazing life.

Because the world needs you.

This process is based on the work of many brilliant minds in this area.

If you practice consistently, it will become easier to flow through and come out the other side more quickly.

Which reminds me – you WILL feel bad again. It’s okay. Attaining some kind of permanent body love nirvana is like thinking life can be sunshine and rainbow unicorns 24/7.

It’s not realistic. Not in a culture that puts SO MUCH emphasis on how we look.

But fewer episodes of negative body thoughts and moving through them with grace and compassion are within reach.

So how do you do it?

#1 Practice Grace

When your mind is spiraling – and the guilt and shame and sadness and disappointment are welling up – practice being kind and compassionate with yourself.

It’s okay.

It’s normal.

Nothing has gone wrong.

Please don’t beat yourself up for feeling bad about your body. It’s not realistic to love your body all the time.

Piling even MORE difficult emotions on top of what you’re already feeling simply fuels the fire – and keeps us stuck and spinning and disempowered.

#2 Get Centered

Remember: this is not an emergency. Even though it FEELS like an emergency. I get it. I’ve been there. I was JUST there. Today. In yoga class.

Freaking out leads to one place  –  a desire to FIX IT NOW! And fixing it now usually looks like ANOTHER restrictive diet. Or not eating for the rest of the day. Or getting on the treadmill for 2 hours. Or googling lose 20 pounds in 7 days.

Please don’t.

Truth bomb: the ONLY thing that changed is your mindset. Before the triggering event, you were OKAY. You are still OKAY.

  • You saw a picture from your family vacation
  • You looked in the mirror
  • Someone tagged you on Facebook
  • A friend lost 20 pounds
  • You put on a pair of jeans
  • You compared yourself to someone else

The triggering event caused a mindset shift – and we can manage our mindset right here, right now.

#3 Understand

When we understand how we got to this place. When we recognize what’s making us feel like our body is a problem (which it is NOT) – it becomes easier to work through it.

Begin by naming the emotion(s) you’re feeling.

I feel…

  • Unattractive
  • Not good enough
  • Unworthy
  • Ugly
  • Embarrassed
  • Sad
  • Angry

Naming our emotions helps us process them.

As children, we’re often told to calm down, to suck it up, to be strong, to get over it. As a result, when we experience difficult emotions we tend to resist them. We push them down. We feel shame for feeling bad.

Your emotions have value. All of them. And they can teach you powerful lessons.

Keep digging.

Why do you feel this way? What led to this? Is there a pattern? Does this frequently occur when you’re with a certain person – or in a certain situation?

If we can identify a pattern, we can prepare ourselves ahead of time.

Hmm, when I’m around my sisters, I often have a negative body image flare up.

Good to know.

Now – ask yourself what you really need in this moment.

What you don’t need is an hour devoted to researching the latest fad diets or looking at pictures of yourself when you weighed less.

We’ve all done this, right? I know I have. And it feels TERRIBLE.

What do you really need?

  • A hug?
  • To go for a walk and clear your head?
  • A funny podcast?
  • Reassuring words from a trusted friend or partner?
  • To get your hands dirty in your garden?

Give yourself what you REALLY need.

#4 Unwind Your Mind

When we’re in a negative space, shifting to feeling positive about our bodies is challenging. Consider aiming for neutrality (or simply feeling a little better).

Find a personal mantra that resonates with you. One that feels true.

What do you need to hear? What would a wise + supportive friend say to you?

Some ideas…

I don’t need to fix this.

This is not an emergency.

My body is an instrument, not an ornament.

I’m not supposed to look like anyone else.

#5 Gratitude

Try practicing a little gratitude for what your body can DO.

Function over form.

Thank you for the gift of being able to hike (or do yoga or pet the dog or watch the sunset or laugh).

Thank you for the ability to hug the people I love.

Thank you for the ability to smell this lavender candle (or the rain in the air or the blissful scent of petunias).

Thank you for allowing me to savor this delicious latte.

Thank you for the ability to explore new and exciting places.

Each time you practice these steps it will become easier to pull yourself out of the spiral. It will become easier to recognize when it’s happening. It will become easier to be kind + compassionate with yourself.

Your body is more than an ornament to decorate this world.

Your body is an instrument.

An instrument of power and badassery and magic.

And the world needs your magic.

More than ever.

XO ~Robyn

Interested in a one-on-one coaching relationship with me? It would be an honor to work with you if and when the time feels right.

To learn more about Personal Health Coaching click HERE. 

To schedule a Discovery Session click HERE.

Filed Under: Coaching Tools, Favorite Posts, Self Acceptance, Self Care

October 3, 2018 By Robyn

Change Strategies For Perfectionists

Most of my clients are self-described perfectionists.

So is their coach.

We tend to have high expectations and can be brutally hard on ourselves when we don’t meet our expectations.

Whenever you’re trying to change your behavior or establish a new habit, you will absolutely fail to do it perfectly.

As perfectionists, this is hard to accept.

Perfectionists are strongly motivated to avoid mistakes. Because mistakes lead to worry + overthinking + ruminating. And this behavior intensifies our emotional pain to the point it’s out of proportion to the situation.

We want to feel absolutely ready before taking on new challenges.

So we plan and prepare and think about taking action, instead of taking action.

Change Strategies for Perfectionists:

Learn from successes.The idea of learning from your mistakes is likely to feel too threatening to a perfectionist.

An alternative is to learn from your successes.

By reflecting on the pathways that led to your successes, you’ll be able to see that you achieved a meaningful end despite hitting bumps en route or being 100% certain of success in advance.

Ask yourself “How could I improve by 1%?” This is especially useful if you’re prone to overcomplicating solutions to problems. Because perfectionists want to be flawless, they’re typically dismissive of small gains.

Attempting 1 percent improvements is a smart strategy, particularly when…

  • Change feels too hard.
  • You’re someone who tends to overcomplicate solutions to problems, and you get stuck in thinking mode rather than taking action.
  • There’s something you want to do, but you’re struggling to find the time and energy.

If you’re struggling to achieve your health goals because it’s either do it all perfectly or not at all, consider asking yourself this question…

What would a small step toward my goal look like?

Start there.

XO ~Robyn

Interested in a one-on-one coaching relationship with me? It would be an honor to work with you if and when the time feels right.

To learn more about Personal Health Coaching click HERE. 

To schedule a Discovery Session click HERE.

Filed Under: Coaching Tools, Favorite Posts, Weight Loss Coaching

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