Most of my clients are self-described perfectionists. So is their coach. We tend to have high expectations and can be brutally hard on ourselves when we don’t meet our expectations. Whenever you’re trying to change your behavior or establish a new habit, you will absolutely fail to do it perfectly. As perfectionists, this is hard to accept. Perfectionists are strongly motivated to avoid mistakes. Because mistakes lead to worry + overthinking + ruminating. And this behavior intensifies our emotional pain to the point it’s out of proportion to the situation. We want to feel absolutely ready before taking on new challenges. So we plan and prepare and think about taking action, instead of taking action. Change Strategies … [Read more...] about Change Strategies For Perfectionists
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What Kind of Teacher Are You?
Imagine it’s your first day of Kindergarten. You’re nervous and excited and curious and bouncing with energy. Throughout the day, your teacher cheers you on and praises what you do well… What a beautiful picture.Thank you for putting the crayons away.What excellent manners you have. You’re beaming. On the second day of school, you enthusiastically race through the doors. Now imagine, if on that first day, your teacher cruelly pointed out everything you did WRONG… You’re not very good at coloring are you? That’s terrible.Why can’t you spell your name? What’s wrong with you? Are you stupid?You’re not as pretty as the other girls in this class. It’s an extreme (and improbable) example, but imagine how you would feel at the … [Read more...] about What Kind of Teacher Are You?
Creating Space for Change
Americans spend north of $60 billion annually trying to lose weight, on everything from gym memberships to weight-loss programs to fat burning shakes. I think it’s safe to say the approach we’ve taken so far isn’t really working out for us. But why? In order to achieve lasting results, we need to transform our deeply rooted habits. And changing our habits requires space + time + energy + engagement. Learning and assimilating new + healthier habits is tricky if you spend your days and weeks running from one thing to another with barely enough time to sit and enjoy a meal - or prepare a meal – or get a good night’s sleep. You can’t learn and do better when you’re always adding more + more + more to an already … [Read more...] about Creating Space for Change
The Case for Not Giving Up
Ten years ago, I had a vision. To build a business dedicated to helping women create healthier bodies and more fulfilling lives. Today, that business is thriving. The pieces have come together. My clients are brave + badass women I truly adore. The work is challenging (in the best way possible) and deeply fulfilling. But it’s been a JOURNEY. There were hundreds of times I thought about quitting - and two times when I came SUPER close. Job offers were on the table. Self-doubt. Fear. Uncertainty. I’m not good enough. Who am I to do this work? Here’s what I want you to know... Setbacks + obstacles + wanting to quit are all necessary components of change, progress and success. We often imagine change or … [Read more...] about The Case for Not Giving Up