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January 18, 2019 By Robyn@dmin

The Freeing Power of Personal Rules

Without reminders + gentle nudges + bumpers to keep us in our lane, we will inevitably default to autopilot mode.

In other words, we will do what we’ve always done.

Autopilot works brilliantly when we have zero interest in changing our actions – but when it comes to self-improvement, it’s kryptonite.

If you’re serious about getting better at something, you’ll need..

1. Self-awareness
2. Accountability tools
3. Personal rules

Yes — rules.

Guidelines. Instructions. Behaviors. Habits. Whatever you want to call them.

The idea of setting rules to live by strikes fear in most people. We immediately recall all the times unfair or cruel rules were forced upon us – or the times we attempted to live under unbearable self-imposed rules (no eating after 6:00).

That is not what I’m talking about.

Below is a list of my current daily habits.

  • Go for a walk
  • Eat at least 5 servings of veggies
  • Keep a daily journal (3 things that would make today great + 3 things I’m grateful for and why)
  • Do at least 2 sets of one strength training exercise
  • Post EVERYTHING consumed on YouAte (a food journaling app)

I track each one of my daily habits in an app called Habit Share. My steps are tracked with Fitbit.

Why all the apps?

If you aren’t aware of what you’re doing, then it is extremely hard to change your life with any degree of consistency. Trying to build better habits without self-awareness is like flying blind.

Rules are often associated with a lack of freedom. But setting rules for yourself is completely different. Freedom is the whole point.

Self-imposed rules aren’t constraints, they’re behavioral boundaries you get to establish yourself, through your own experience and wisdom.

A good personal rule sets you free from having to stop and negotiate with yourself for the hundredth time on the same issues. Should I have a third drink? Should I go for a walk today? Should I order the salad?

Despite our fear of rules, acting in accordance with a well-considered personal rule does not feel constraining. Instead, it generates a profound feeling of power and independence.

Coach Tips:

  • Choose rules that make your life better and set you up for success. Rules that aren’t so difficult you can’t adhere at least 80% of the time.
  • Choose rules that add and enhance (eat a serving of veggies at dinner, go for a walk) rather than subtract (no sugar).
  • Experiment with short-term rules (14 days, the month of February). Be curious. Try. Test. Investigate.
  • Utilize accountability tools (Habit Share, Fitbit, YouAte, a coach 😃)
  • Choose rules that gently stretch you in the direction you want to go.
  • Most important, choose rules that feel like love not punishment.

💙Robyn

Interested in a one-on-one coaching relationship with me? It would be an honor to work with you if and when the time feels right.

To learn more about Personal Health Coaching click HERE. 

Filed Under: Favorite Posts, Habits

November 12, 2018 By Robyn

The REAL Reason Healthy Eating is Hard (and how to do it anyway)

The benefits of good nutrition and maintaining a healthy weight are clear. There’s no need to provide yet another list.

With so many compelling reasons to eat a healthy diet, why is it so difficult to actually do?

Hint: the answer is not more willpower or greater motivation.

One of the MAIN reasons eating a healthy diet is difficult is because JUNK FOOD IS DELICIOUS (+ widely available + inexpensive).

Steven Witherly is a food scientist who has spent the last 20 years studying what makes certain foods more addictive (and tasty) than others. Much of the science that follows is from his brilliant report, Why Humans Like Junk Food. According to Witherly, when you eat tasty food, there are two factors that make the experience pleasurable.

First, there is the sensation of eating the food. This includes what it tastes like (salty, sweet, umami, etc.), what it smells like, and how it feels in your mouth.

Food companies will spend millions of dollars to discover the most satisfying level of crunch in a potato chip. Their scientists will test for the perfect amount of fizzle in a soda. These factors all combine to create the sensation that your brain associates with a particular food or drink.

The second factor is the actual macronutrient makeup of the food—the blend of proteins, fats, and carbohydrates that it contains. In the case of junk food, food manufacturers are looking for a perfect combination of salt, sugar, and fat that excites your brain and gets you coming back for more.

The more junk food you eat, you more you crave it.

So how do you build the habit of eating less junk? How do you become a healthy eater?

Here are two simple strategies.

#1. Reduce exposure. Remove the cues.

The easiest way to become a healthy eater is to avoid buying processed and packaged foods altogether.

If you don’t own it, you can’t eat it.

The number one driver of behavior change is your environment.

Your environment has an incredible ability to shape your behavior. Nowhere is this more true than with food. What we eat on a daily basis is often a result of what we are presented with.

You can also reduce your exposure (or the triggers that often lead to a craving) by managing what you see on social media.

If your Instagram feed is bursting with cupcakes, you WILL crave cupcakes each time you see one.

The average person spends over two hours a day on social media. That’s a lot of cupcakes.

Full disclosure: I recently unfollowed a local French macaron shop because MACARONS!!!

I do not have superhuman willpower – or endless stores of motivation. What I do have is an environment designed to set myself up for success.

The best way to unwind an unwanted (“bad”) habit is to make it invisible and/or difficult.

Reduce exposure. Remove the cues. Increase the number of steps between you and the “bad” habit. Limit choices.

  • Don’t put the ice cream in your shopping cart. Don’t even go down the ice cream aisle.
  • Put half your restaurant meal in a to-go box immediately and close it up.
  • Get the decadent French macarons off your Instagram feed.
  • Stash the snacks in the back of a shelf that requires a chair to get to.
  • Wrap unhealthy foods in aluminum foil and healthy foods in plastic wrap.
  • Put fruit (and other healthy snacks) on display.
  • Repackage unhealthy snacks into smaller Ziploc bags or containers.
  • Use a small plate so getting seconds means having to get up.

#2 Never eat two unhealthy meals in a row.

A flexible healthy diet means making allowances for unhealthy food from time to time. I’m a Jersey girl. I love pizza and bagels and a good eggplant parmesan on occasion.

I am not a perfect eater. I don’t want to be a perfect eater. Delicious food brings me joy when eaten in moderation.

I have a simple rule that I try to follow: whenever I eat an unhealthy meal, I follow it with a healthy one.

The “never miss twice” rule helps to guide me back toward a healthy diet as quickly as possible.

Fall down. Get up.

You can take this same approach to almost anything in life. If you want to make a unwanted behavior more difficult, then increase the number of steps between you and the behavior.

Meanwhile, if you want to make a good behavior easier, reduce the number of steps between you and the behavior. For example, if you want to make it easier to go for a walk then lay out your shoes and walking gear the night before. One less step between you and your workout.

People who are experts at what you want to do/be/achieve are not willpower and motivation unicorns.

They’ve simply designed their environment in a way that aligns with their goals and developed habits that get them the results they want.

If five flavors of potato chips lived in my pantry, I would eat ALL THE CHIPS.

I do not have junk food resisting superpowers. 

I have less cravings because I rarely eat junk food.

I’ve build up healthy habits over the years that run on autopilot.

My environment supports my goals.

I use apps and tools and services that make healthy living easier.

If my husband buys cookies, they go in the basement – or in his office.

You can do it too. Superpowers not necessary.

XO ~Robyn

Interested in a one-on-one coaching relationship with me? It would be an honor to work with you if and when the time feels right.

To learn more about Personal Health Coaching click HERE. 

To schedule a Discovery Session click HERE.

Filed Under: Coaching Tools, Favorite Posts, Habits, Weight Loss Coaching

August 9, 2017 By Robyn@dmin

Give In Or Discipline?

We all feel like giving up sometimes. What a relief it would be to not do the thing we’re supposed to do. To skip the workout. Call in sick. Eat all the things. Say, “eff it,” or, “it doesn’t really matter.” Just for today. And maybe tomorrow.

It’s not just me, right?

Despite our immediate desire to resist or avoid the task at hand, we all know that doing (insert task you don’t want to do) will leave us feeling better. Even if our heart isn’t in it. Even if it’s C+ work.

The simple act of showing up is a victory worth celebrating.

The reason most people don’t change is because we don’t want to experience discomfort. What’s the point of being uncomfortable when you can just stay the same?

I love what behavior change expert James Clear has to say about discomfort…

Relative to the time in your normal day or week, nearly any habit you perform is over quickly. Your workout will be finished in an hour or two. Your report will be typed to completion by tomorrow morning. This article will be finished in just a moment.

Life is easier now than it has ever been. 300 years ago, if you didn’t kill your own food and build your own house, you would die. Today, we whine about forgetting our iPhone charger.

Maintain perspective. Your life is good and your discomfort is temporary. Step into this moment of discomfort and let it strengthen you.

Our first instinct is to resist discomfort. To complain about it. Obsess over it. Make it bigger than it is.

This approach will wear you down. Fast.

Peacefully coexisting with the minor discomfort required for change keeps you in the game. Instead of obsessing + resisting + whoa is me-ing — invite it in. Embrace it. Look forward to it.

Look forward to it?

Yes. Because on the other side of temporary discomfort is something you will feel great about. On the other side of it is accomplishment and success.

Our daily lives are made up of thousands of little decisions to either give into the ease of immediate gratification or experience the discomfort of discipline. Your life is the sum of these seemingly tiny choices.

💙 Robyn

Interested in a one-on-one coaching relationship with me? It would be an honor to work with you if and when the time feels right.

To learn more about Personal Health Coaching click HERE. 

To schedule a Discovery Session click HERE.

Filed Under: Coaching Tools, Favorite Posts, Habits

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