Self Acceptance

My husband Brett contributes more to our household expenses than I do. Like way more. He never complains or insinuates that I ought to make more money. Ever. Despite this fact, I elected to feel bad anyway. “I should contribute more.” “I don’t make enough money.” “I’m not enough.” That last one  - ouch! My negative thoughts around this circumstance were not only making me miserable, they were contributing to my ever growing debt. Circumstance (fact) – I earn money for my work Thought – I don’t make enough money Feeling(s)– less than, shame, guilt Action – buy stuff to distract from the negative feelings, consider getting a “regular paycheck” job (even thought I LOVE my business), focus attention on what I don’t have Result – … [Read more...] about Loving My Way Out of Debt

  See if you can relate to the following scenario? You've stumble upon an old picture of yourself. At the time the photo was taken you didn’t particularly like your body. Maybe you thought your butt was too big or you still needed to lose a few pounds. Maybe you wished your stomach was a little flatter or your face was thinner. When you look at the picture today, you see a beautiful woman - and you wonder why you were so hard on yourself. You might even be wishing you had that body right now. The one you didn’t like very much at the time. Sound familiar? This, my dear, is one example of chasing perfection - and it’s a great way to set yourself up for failure and make yourself (and everyone around you) miserable. I’m guilty. At … [Read more...] about Stop Chasing Perfection

  At a recent appointment with my foot surgeon, he mentioned that I might give biking a try (he doesn't want me running anymore). "Um, okay - why not?" It's been well over 10 years, maybe closer to 20 since I last rode a bike - and to be honest, I wasn't very good at it then. I totally sucked on my first ride - in a hilarious kind of way. Every time I would get to a tight turn, I’d wind up off the trail. I was afraid to hop down curbs and my hands formed a death grip around the handle bars at all times. It was like being seven all over again. Two nights ago, the hubby and I set off for my 5th ride. I made the turns, rode down the curb and let go with one hand so I could grab a drink. Starting something new isn't easy. Being … [Read more...] about Don’t Let Being a Beginner Stop You