Lots of folks consider themselves victims. Some wear this distinction like a badge of honor. Victims give up their own power. They make excuses. They blame. They want others to take care of them and make them feel good. They choose to not take responsibility for their own lives. Guess what? You don't have to be a victim. Victimhood is a choice we make. Lots of folks experience negative circumstances. Some of these circumstances are downright devastating. In our minds, we create thoughts about these circumstances. The good news? We get to choose the thoughts we think. Some choose the thought, "I am a victim." They create a life of misery, inaction and blame. Maybe they think it's the easier that way. Or perhaps they believe it's … [Read more...] about Rolling Over and Playing Victim
Self Acceptance
Yellow Nails and Purple Hair
While waiting for my nails to dry at the salon today, a little girl, maybe 4 or 5 and her Mom walked in. Mom was scheduled for a manicure and the little girl was having her toenails painted. Mom asked her to pick out a color and the little girl chose a bright taxicab yellow. Mom said no, choose another one and suggested pink. The little girl picked up another yellow polish and asked, this one? Mom said no again and suggested yet another pink polish. I'm not sure what the outcome was. My nails were dry and I decide to leave. My heart broke for that little girl. Her desire for yellow nails got me thinking. So many women (and men) worry constantly about being judged. We conform in order to fit in. We do things we don't want to do. We dress … [Read more...] about Yellow Nails and Purple Hair
Talking to Strangers
Putting a voice to your soul helps you let go of the negative energy of fear and regret. ~Shannon Alder *** When I was a little girl, I was shy. Not your typical, run of the mill shy. I'm talking shy with a capital S-H-Y! The mere possibility of having to speak to a stranger sent me into a state of panic. There was this little Italian Delicatessen called Natoli's a few blocks from my house in Secaucus. It was one of hundreds, maybe thousands, that dot the streets of Northern New Jersey. My Dad and I would occasionally walk to Natoli's to pick up our weekly Friday night pizza pie. The owner of Natoli's was a big jovial guy named Steve - and Steve scared the shit out of me! Wait, what? How does jovial equal scary? Steve would always give … [Read more...] about Talking to Strangers
Join the Perfectly Imperfect Club
Once upon a time, I convinced myself that I needed to weigh 125 pounds without a single trace of cellulite on my ass, BEFORE I could launch my personal training business. What a crock of shit! If you want success and happiness in this life, the actions you take must be fueled by feelings of excitement and curiosity. If I still believed that original thought, the one fueled by insecurity, I surely would have given up by now. That kind of destructive thinking, the type that causes you to feel BAD, it's pure poison my Chickadees, and it only leads to BAD results. Every single time! Give this a try. Next time a negative thought pops up, and it will, choose a new and better feeling thought. Check it out: Negative Thought: "Would you look … [Read more...] about Join the Perfectly Imperfect Club