About 10 years ago, I enrolled in a Weight Loss Coaching Certification program. I was already certified as a Health Coach with ACE, but that program didn’t teach about the mindset of weight loss. The new program was ALL about mindset. During my certification, I was asked to assess any overeating I did. What did I overeat? What were my sabotaging thoughts? But, I DID NOT DO IT. Why? Because I was beating myself up for not being perfect instead. I was too busy swimming in shame + comparison + judgement. How can a Health Coach possibly make mistakes?I’m supposed to be the example.Who would hire a coach that overate sometimes (or GASP, gained weight)? I tried SO HARD to do it all perfectly so I wouldn’t have to feel the … [Read more...] about Messing Up is Part of the Process
Self Care
Ignoring the Pressure to Be Productive
COVID-19 has effectively blown through our lives like an F5 tornado and completely uprooted our sense of safety and normalcy. This is a situation unlike any we’ve experienced before. Most people are feeling a combination of unprecedented fear + uncertainty. When will I be able to (safely) fly and see my Mom again? Will my sister/husband/friend lose their job/business? Will there be toilet paper at the grocery store today? Will school reopen in the Fall? Another consequence of COVID-19 (and contributor to anxiety) is that we’re being urged to use this time to learn a new language or train for a half marathon or improve ourselves in some way. The pressure is convincing. I fully admit to moments where I considered … [Read more...] about Ignoring the Pressure to Be Productive
Giving Ourselves Grace
Hard times can break us - or they can help us grow into deeper + more compassionate human beings. And (I think) the difference between the two has to do with giving ourselves grace. It’s been a difficult winter. My husband lost his father suddenly a few months ago and my own Dad (who was very ill) passed three weeks later. Navigating two terribly sad events in a row reaffirmed that I am a strong woman. Stronger and more resilient than I gave myself credit for. But I am no superwoman. About a week after losing my Dad, I sat down on the trail during a hike because I was overcome with emotion. Some people might consider that a moment of weakness, but I considered it a victory. A few years ago, I would have pushed … [Read more...] about Giving Ourselves Grace
Once I Lose Weight
Most of us think our weight is the main problem that needs to be solved. I wholeheartedly disagree. When our obsession with our weight is front and center, we’re unable to focus on any aspect of self-care that doesn’t involve shrinking our bodies. I’ll be kinder to myself once I lose weight. I’ll start walking (or go to a yoga class) once I lose weight. I’ll buy quality clothes that fit well once I lose weight. I’ll eat what truly feels good in my body once I lose weight. I’ll book that vacation once I lose weight. I’ll stop starving myself once I lose weight. Essentially, we’re neglecting our basic needs and desires until we feel we “deserve” it by losing weight. This is incredibly unhelpful. What leads to … [Read more...] about Once I Lose Weight