Society tells us that the way to be happy is to achieve our goals.
Graduate from college.
Get a good job.
Find a partner.
Buy a house.
Get fit.
Get that promotion.
Raise healthy + happy kids.
Go on vacation.
Buy a bigger house.
And a nice car.
And a boat.
And…
It’s true that if you achieve a goal there’s a feeling of happiness associated with it. It’s also true that the feeling doesn’t last very long.
You quickly settle back at your baseline level of happiness and start thinking about the next goal.
Seeking, searching, striving, pushing, reaching, climbing.
This gets to be quite exhausting – and ultimately, unfulfilling.
But there’s a different way to live your life. One that is rich and meaningful and fulfilling.
Imagine you’re heading off on a road trip with your two best friends – Molly and Miranda. Let’s say the destination is Canyon Ranch – a posh spa in Arizona.
Molly is goal focused.
Throughout the entire two-day road-trip she’s saying…
How long before we get there?
It’s taking forever.
I can’t wait for my massage.
I hope I can fit everything I want to do in.
OMG there’s construction – we’re going to get there later than planned. This is terrible.
Miranda is values focused.
She wants to get to Canyon Ranch too. But she’s also in touch with her values around adventure and curiosity and fun.
Miranda is taking in the scenery – pointing out the cactus and the amazing rock formations.
She’s singing along to her favorite songs.
Molly and Miranda both enjoy their time at Canyon Ranch – but Miranda enjoys the journey as well.
That’s what living a values driven life looks like.
The same approach can be applied to weight loss.
Sometimes we’re so focused on getting to our “goal” weight, that we miss out on the wisdom + fun + possibilities along the way.
When we’re goals focused, we think we can’t be happy or confident or sexy or date or buy a cute outfit or go on that beach vacation until those magic digits pop up on the scale.
When we’re goals focused, we keep trying the next fad diet – the one that can get us to our destination as quickly as possible. And I think you know how that usually turns out.
Permanent weight loss happens when you adopt a values focused approach as you “drive” to your destination.
If you’re ready to go on a values driven journey + learn about yourself + grow as an individual as you move down the scale, then coaching might be right for you.
I’ll have a couple of openings for new personal weight loss coaching clients coming up in early January. Are you in?
I work with determined + smart + courageous women who want a healthier body and a more delicious life! No calorie counting required.
Simply click here to schedule a free Discovery Session or email me directly at robyn@chickadeeweightloss.com.
XO
~Robyn
Robyn Spurr is a Once Obese Chick, Eating Disorder Survivor, Certified Weight Loss Coach, Personal Trainer and founder of Chickadee Weight Loss. She helps women learn to manage their emotions without food and reach their healthy, natural weight without all the diet craziness.