If we want to learn a new skill, we need to create space in our lives to do the work required. There’s no way around it. Want to learn a new language? Become a skilled cooked? Run a half marathon? Lose weight – for good? Most anything is possible with willingness + time + effort. My clients are always ready + willing to do what it takes. It’s the time component of the equation that tends to trip them up. I don’t have enough time. This other thing came up. I can’t seem to fit it in. What we tend to label as a time problem, is more often than not - a priorities problem. There is usually a discrepancy between what we want to do + what we actually do. Here’s how you solve this problem. Write down your list of priorities the way they … [Read more...] about Bridging the Gap Between What You Want and What You Have
How to Create More of What You Want
Sometimes we just don't know how to get unstuck. We desperately want to break free from the worry or self-doubt or frustration - but we simply can't pull ourselves out of the mud. So we spin and swirl in our painful thoughts and emotions much longer than we need to. Here's a simple tool that I use with my own clients to help them create more of what they want in life. Ready? All you have to do is answer four simple questions. I highly recommend you write down your answers - pen to paper - old school style! Why? We want to get those thoughts out of our heads - so we can look at them objectively. What's not working? (or - What's the problem?) What am I doing (or not doing) to create this result? What do I want to create … [Read more...] about How to Create More of What You Want
Awesome-ize Your Life With Opposite Action
Repeat after me... The brain is an inconsistent advisor. Go to the gym, you’ll feel amazing afterwards. But I’m sooo tired – and look, the new season of Empire is available. *** That cake totally isn’t worth it + I don’t even like red velvet. Come on, it’s a celebration. EVERYONE is eating cake. *** It’s almost 11:00, better get to bed soon. Just one. more. episode. That's why it’s up to you to decide whether to act on a piece of advice – or not. If you want to achieve your goals, you’re going to have to become a pro at saying “no” to the committee in your head. To help change our unproductive patterns of behavior, we can apply a behavioral change tool called opposite action. Here's how you do it... If you're struggling with a … [Read more...] about Awesome-ize Your Life With Opposite Action
Change Your Facebook Feed, Love Your Body
In her best selling book, The Magic Art of Tidying Up, author Marie Kondo writes… The best way to choose what to keep and what to throw away is to take each item in one’s hand and ask: “Does this spark joy?” If it does, keep it. If not, dispose of it. Consider the amount of time you spend on social media (or watching TV). Are you “consuming” images + posts + shows + articles that spark joy and make you feel good about yourself and the world? A few months ago, I set out on an adventure – to create a Facebook feed that made me feel great about myself. And I succeeded. When we’re bombarded with size 4 bodies and photo-shopped images all day, every day - our brains recognize these images as “normal” and anything else as – not … [Read more...] about Change Your Facebook Feed, Love Your Body