"A lot of people get so hung up on what they can't have that they don't think for a second about whether they really want it." ~Lionel Shriver Last week, I popped into my local Whole Foods to pick up a few things. It's a rare event these days because, well - it's ridiculously overpriced and I can get high quality groceries at my local supermarket or Trader Joe's (thank you for finally coming to Colorado). Five or so years ago, when I was starting my coaching business and had a heap of debt to pay off, I can remember thinking how unfair it was that I couldn't shop at Whole Foods (or get massages or buy a zillion books on amazon). So I continued to spend and stayed in debt for years. Now that the credit card is paid off and my business is … [Read more...] about The Wanting Mentality
Awareness
5 Questions For a Focused New Year
"The act of speaking our intentions aloud shifts them from wishful thinking into action." ~ Michael Thomas Sunnarborg I’m not a fan of New Year’s resolutions. We set them, then don’t take them seriously, then forget about them in a month. Lame. What I DO love is setting my intention for the year each January. Often, I’m guided by a single word. Sometimes it’s a quote - or a feeling - or a goal. My intention always seems to find me – not the other way around. This year, two words presented themselves – loud and clear. : Mindfulness : Quality We can't achieve what we want without first getting clear. Feeling a little swirly + unfocused + nebulous about 2015? Try asking yourself these 5 simple questions - courtesy of Alexandra Franzen … [Read more...] about 5 Questions For a Focused New Year
Why Can’t I Say No?
“A NO uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a YES merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.” ~Mahatma Gandhi Even though I've lived in Colorado since 1998, I'm still a Jersey Girl at heart. So I'm gonna give it to you straight. The reason you keep saying yes, when you really want to say no is because you want other people to like and approve of you. And the reason you want their approval is because you're not practicing approval of yourself. No matter how much outside approval you get, you'll never be satisfied. I promise. Only you can make you happy. You can decide, right now - to stop waiting for other people to give you the love and affection you should be giving to yourself. Try this. Write down five … [Read more...] about Why Can’t I Say No?
Showing Up for Yourself
You were given this life because you're strong enough to live it. The only thing keeping you from living the life you desire is self-doubt. Self-doubt is a dream killer. The way you talk to yourself is everything. Your brain is like a big muscle. The more time you spend training it, the stronger it gets. Tell it what you want it to think. Notice the self talk that isn't serving you and replace it with thoughts you like. Practice the new thoughts - over and over and over. Until they crowd out the hate and the doubt. You always have a choice. Why not choose love and acceptance and kindness? You can start today. But first - ask yourself if you want to change - for you. You have to want health and happiness so much, that you’re willing to … [Read more...] about Showing Up for Yourself