It’s entirely NORMAL to experience negative body image days. It’s NORMAL to not love what you see in the mirror or in a photo sometimes. Welcome to the club my friend. But you don’t have to stay stuck in that place. You don’t have to layer feelings of guilt and shame about feeling bad on top of ALREADY feeling crummy. Today I'm sharing a process to help you unwind a negative body image spiral - so you can get on with living your amazing life. Because the world needs you. This process is based on the work of many brilliant minds in this area. If you practice consistently, it will become easier to flow through and come out the other side more quickly. Which reminds me – you WILL feel bad again. It’s okay. Attaining some … [Read more...] about 5 Steps for Unwinding Body Shame
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Change Strategies For Perfectionists
Most of my clients are self-described perfectionists. So is their coach. We tend to have high expectations and can be brutally hard on ourselves when we don’t meet our expectations. Whenever you’re trying to change your behavior or establish a new habit, you will absolutely fail to do it perfectly. As perfectionists, this is hard to accept. Perfectionists are strongly motivated to avoid mistakes. Because mistakes lead to worry + overthinking + ruminating. And this behavior intensifies our emotional pain to the point it’s out of proportion to the situation. We want to feel absolutely ready before taking on new challenges. So we plan and prepare and think about taking action, instead of taking action. Change Strategies … [Read more...] about Change Strategies For Perfectionists
What Kind of Teacher Are You?
Imagine it’s your first day of Kindergarten. You’re nervous and excited and curious and bouncing with energy. Throughout the day, your teacher cheers you on and praises what you do well… What a beautiful picture.Thank you for putting the crayons away.What excellent manners you have. You’re beaming. On the second day of school, you enthusiastically race through the doors. Now imagine, if on that first day, your teacher cruelly pointed out everything you did WRONG… You’re not very good at coloring are you? That’s terrible.Why can’t you spell your name? What’s wrong with you? Are you stupid?You’re not as pretty as the other girls in this class. It’s an extreme (and improbable) example, but imagine how you would feel at the … [Read more...] about What Kind of Teacher Are You?
Decisions From Strength
Most of our regrettable choices are made when we feel rushed, overwhelmed, or under pressure… The hideous $200 pair of sandals you bought (ON SALE!!!) after a particularly rough day.The drive through burger + fries + shake instead of making dinner because the kids pushed you over the edge (for the FOURTH time that week).The second bottle of wine because, “Come on, you only live once!” If you know you’ll be exhausted and stressed and HANGRY at the end of the day, make the decision about what you’ll eat AHEAD OF TIME. That may mean prepping some meals on Sunday that simply need to be heated up – or using a meal delivery service - or scoping out some healthy fast food options. If you know you’ll be rushing out the door in the … [Read more...] about Decisions From Strength