Anytime you eat when you’re not physically hungry is because of a feeling. Inadequacy Loneliness Fear Disappointment Anger Defeat A feeling created by a thought. I’m not good enough. No one cares. I’m never going to pay off this debt. This isn’t what I wanted. She hurt me. Screw it! You’re not overweight because you like food too much or because you just can’t stop once you’ve started or because ice cream makes you feel better. Those are the lies you tell yourself. Your story. We like to blame our weight on our food “problems” - but the reason you overeat has nothing to do with food. The reason we get fat isn’t because we don’t have enough willpower or because junk food is cheap and delicious. We don’t get fat … [Read more...] about The Truth About Why We’re Fat
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The Surprising Reason I Recommend a Food Plan
Most people blame lack of willpower for their unhealthy choices. I disagree. Sort of. When you make a decision, or resist a donut – you’re expending some of the mental currency you have available that day. Each small decision diminishes your daily energy stores. Check this out… Barack Obama and Mark Zuckerberg wear essentially the same thing to work every day. President Obama dresses in a blue or gray suit and Zuckerberg wears a gray T-shirt. Why? They know they have a day full of decisions ahead of them and a limited amount of mental energy. They put decision making on autopilot where they can. James Clear explains this phenomenon in his article, How Willpower Works: How to Avoid Bad Decisions… “As it turns out, your willpower is … [Read more...] about The Surprising Reason I Recommend a Food Plan
What Anxiety Can Teach Us
“You’re the most positive person I know.” These words were spoken to me not once, but three times in the past few weeks. I wasn’t always a positive person. I was immersed in a world of worry and negativity for most of my life. My acceptance into the “gifted” Kindergarten class crippled me with fear. I didn’t think I would be able to keep up with the other kids. Yes, Kindergarten. Ask my Mom. Some major self-esteem issues at 5. I refused to go to school for a week in 4th grade because I failed my first test. A history exam. My sister Lynda's math homework sent me into a state of panic. I was sure I’d never be able to master the same concepts when I was her age (she’s 9 years older me). I drove my Dad crazy in the car - asking if we had … [Read more...] about What Anxiety Can Teach Us
Who is Showing Up and Why it Matters
A few weeks ago, I sat down in my office, grabbed my yellow legal pad and dialed in to a conference call on self-acceptance. I propped my foot up on a chair and began to think about my recent foot surgery. Here's a peek inside my head that day... Can’t believe I had to have surgery AGAIN. My foot hurts. Recovery is going to take forever. This sucks! Pretty ugly. The conference call started and distracted me from my thoughts, but they were still there, dancing around in the back of my mind. At the end of the call, I looked down and noticed that I had jotted about half a page of notes. I hung up and thought - geez, didn’t really get much out of that call. In fact, I posted this comment on one of my coaching forums: When I visited … [Read more...] about Who is Showing Up and Why it Matters