Wow, she gained a lot of weight. She has such a pretty face - if she could just lose the weight. She shouldn't be wearing that. She could stand to drop a few pounds. Look at all the food on her plate. Lazy! Anytime we make negative judgments about others based on size, appearance or weight - it's fat shaming. It's time to put an end to this type of conversation. Fat shaming is not okay. Not in public, not in private, not in front of children, not about your own body, not here, not there - not anywhere. I've been listening to women speak negatively about their bodies since I can remember. These conversations influenced the way I felt about my own body. It's time to change the conversation. It's time to stop reinforcing our … [Read more...] about Putting an End to Fat Shaming
Self Care
One Little Word 2014 – Light
My one little word for 2014 is light. anything that illuminates mental insight, understanding a gleam or sparkle, as in the eyes understanding of a problem or mystery; enlightenment without burdens, difficulties, or problems; easily done: a light heart; light work free from worry or unhappiness; cheerful In 2009 I began a tradition of choosing a word for myself each January – a word that will help guide me through the year. Past words have included ease, abundance, freedom, connection and fearlessness. The possibilities for incorporating your word are endless. Read books associated with your word Create a playlist of music Make a "one little word" scrapbook Post quotes and pictures around the house Take … [Read more...] about One Little Word 2014 – Light
What Your Compulsion is Trying to Teach You
Imagine your most recent episode of overeating. What words might you choose to describe your actions? Here are a few common responses I hear. Bad Disgusting Out of Control Weak Powerless Broken Hopeless I'm going to ask you to reconsider and try on the following words instead. Connection Powerful Survival We ordinarily think of compulsive eating as a “bad” thing - something we ought to be ashamed of. In reality, our compulsions around eating serve two very powerful purposes: to numb out undesirable feelings and to bring us comfort. As children, we’re not always capable of handling the intensity of the feelings we’re presented with. Feelings like fear, abandon, grief, panic or inadequacy. We learn early on that … [Read more...] about What Your Compulsion is Trying to Teach You
4 Questions to Ask Before Quitting
Last night I thought about quitting. Quitting my business. Quitting healthy eating. Quitting my strength training program. I had a total crazy town moment. Truth is - I think about quitting all the time. It’s tempting to quit. Quitting is easy. It gives us immediate relief from our challenge. But when we quit, we forgo feelings of accomplishment and pride. Of knowing we're capable of pushing through when things get tough. Of realizing our dreams. That said, quitting isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes it’s just what we need to do. But it’s important to take the time to sort it out. Really important. I knew I didn’t want to quit all of those things. I knew my feelings of frustration were an opportunity in disguise. An … [Read more...] about 4 Questions to Ask Before Quitting